After you read her new book, you will feel as if you know her. And you will think she knows you too. She knows what you are up against. She wants to help readers who find themselves “Fighting for Grace in a World of Impossible Standards.”
Jen writes the way a cowboy hero rides. You know, the good guy wearing his white hat comes to town to stand up to the ruthless cattle baron, that character who always wants more. More cattle or land or power over people.
Instead of letting people be defeated by the bad guys, Jen’s mission impossible is to free people everywhere from strangleholds of fear, perfectionism and competition. And did I mention guilt for not measuring up?
Jen says, “We measure our performance against an invented standard and come up wanting, and it is destroying our joy. No matter how hard we work to excel in an area or two, it never feels like enough.”
My Favorite Chapter
“As a former approval addict … your forty-year-old self won’t care much what anyone thinks of you, your parenting, your marriage, your career, your politics, your house, your wardrobe, your hair, your kids, your choices, your church, your dog, your new red front door, your comfortable flats, your stretchy pants, your daughter’s hair, your son’s weird interest in vintage ska, your favorite college sweatshirt you still wear, your decision to homeschool/private school/public school, your new resolve to go vegan, your consistent purchase of Lunchables, your decision to work, your decision to quit, your random idea to purchase chickens [Jen has chickens]. It just won’t matter …” (13).
You get the idea.
Jen is hilarious. I can laugh with her and all the “young things” she has in mind when she highlights some of the compensations of growing older.
Hmmm. Since I’m old enough to be her mom, I’m thinking, Yeah, right. 40 is soooo old.
Only Jen is right about more than “old lady hands sticking out of [your] sleeves.” (Get over it).
Oh, how I wish back when I was my 40-years-old self someone had said what Jen is bold enough to think, say and write.
Let Freedom Ring
Way back in March, I was among 500 people who got to preview Jen’s new book, For the Love.
Like the other 499 people, I have been connecting with the other readers via a Facebook group and each of us is eager to share with others what Jen has to say. And if that eclectic group is any indication of the resonance of Jen’s message, this book will continue to stimulate conversations, promote health and healing and community.
For the Love, “Fighting for Grace in a World of Impossible Standards,” raises the banner for freedom to be yourself, not a copy of anybody else.
Tune in again for more excerpts. Or better yet, order a copy of the book today and mark up every single page the way I have personalized my copy, highlighting the winsome, funny and truthful things Jen has to say.
You’ll be glad you did.